I wanted to share one of the main things that used to drive me mad when I was still drinking.

It was knowing exactly what I “should” be doing about drinking - and still not being able to do it.

One thing I hear over and over from clients is “everyone else can stop at two or three drinks, what’s wrong with me?”.

And I get that it’s tempting to think that there’s something fundamentally wrong with you.

After all, ‘why can’t I just’ is such a familiar internal narrative when you’ve got ADHD… we become world class experts at that game.

Did last night end in a quick drink-or-three to decompress after a stressful day? No judgement here. That used to be me.

I hear this daily from single mums running on empty.

From high-fliers in careers that take everything they’ve got.

Accountability. Does the word make you cringe? Instantly conjure up feelings of unwanted control or pressure?

If you’ve got a rebellious streak with a side of ADHD (ahem, guilty) then you probably really don’t like being told what to do and might already be side-eyeing me.

But the kind of accountability I’m talking about is different. And I’ve found it’s often the missing piece in making sustainable change including my own.

If you've ever wondered why your relationship with alcohol feels harder than it seems to be for everyone else, it’s because with ADHD it is.

You’re not imagining it, you’re not making excuses, it is.

This makes ‘just having one’ often feel impossible. Here’s why and what to do.

When drinking becomes a habit, the brain changes in measurable ways. For ADHDers, the stakes are even higher.

A 2019 major research review published in the Journal of Neuroscience Research pulled together decades of brain-imaging studies to show what actually happens in the brain when drinking becomes a struggle …